My mum stopped me from giving my husband-to-be money to buy our dream house – Working class woman
A Nigerian woman known as Sandra is confused about the decision to make following a financial advise she got from her mother as she prepares to get married.
The working class lady earns almost the same salary as her husband and she owns four plots of land in Ibadan.
Her mum was the one who single handedly raised her because her father is late and she is the only child.
She said that she would be settling down with her fiance in July and they have been making plans to get their dream home.
But the challenge is that her husband-to-be does not have enough money to purchase the house and she was thinking of supporting him financially but her mother advised against it.
Sandra said that if her daughter does that, her hubby will get used to the idea of splitting bills, so it will be better if he just rented an apartment he can afford.
The soon-to-be wife feels that her mum’s advise might not be the best so she needs other opinions.
She said; “My fiancé and I are getting married by July. He’s just been transferred to Lagos so we are searching for an apartment but the ones we like is above his budget. We earn almost the same amount although he earns a little bit higher. I have money to assist to get our dream house but my mum advise me against it. She said he will get used to us splitting bills and I should let him rent an apartment he can afford. My mum advised I invest my money in real estate.
I have 4 plots of land in Ibadan and My mum wants me to buy more. She knows everything about my finance so whenever I have a lot of money with me, she always want me to buy land I kind of feel bad seeing my fiancé put his own money together to set up our home while I invest mine. I’m the only child of a single mum and I don’t have anyone to speak to. Please advise me, am I towing the right path? “
In other news, Nigerian man has appealed to the public to support his upcoming wedding financially because he is incapable of handling it all by himself.
The guy sent an email to a Non-governmental organisation, Halal Foundation to intercede on his behalf and make his situation known to Nigerians.
In a letter he wrote, the Kaduna state indigene revealed that his wedding is coming up on 3rd of March, 2023.
He said his parents died when he was still in secondary school and he expressed hopes of getting the support he needs.
The man also listed items which are needed for the wedding and released the prices in dollars.
Most of the items of the list are clothes and clothing accessories which range from $50 to $100 while the one thing that stood our was his house rent which he said is $250 dollars.
Halal shared the letter on its Twitter page and wrote; ”A brother emailed us that he need your help for his marriage coming soon.”
The young man’s letter read in part:
Request for Marriage Funding Assistance
I, Hassan, am writing to beg financial support for my upcoming marriage. My parents died when I was in Senior Secondary two, and I am a native of Katsina State, Nigeria, where I had my elementary and secondary education (2). Later, I went to Polytechnic and earned a diploma in Computer Science.
I put my complete mind and confidence on your side, knowing that by God’s grace, you will help me opt out of the crucial circumstance I find myself in with whatever you intend to provide me as my marriage will be done on March 3rd, 2023 by next year by God’s grace.
I would be quite grateful if you could support and assist me in carrying out my marriage without the need for a loan from a bank or making me feel concerned.