A man identified as Oistien van Mowo, has revealed that he stopped his wife from visiting her parents on a few occasions.
He explained that his mother-in-law lives in the same city with them, and his wife formed the habit of visiting her.
Mowo, who describes himself as a traditional man, said he decided to halt the visits because it was becoming constant.
According to him, when its weekend or he travels out, his wife uses the opportunity to go and see her parents.
He said that what he was doing was just a way of balancing things in the home.
Mowo wrote; “I have stopped my wife once or twice from visit her parent. Her mum lives in same city as we do, the first time of stopping her from going was because she was making it too frequent and any time I am out of town over the weekend she’s ready to run off. Trying to cut a daughter off from her parent is different to trying to balance things in your home.”
A tweep @bumblebees_ng questioned him; We have a saying in my village “na from clap den dey take enter dance…” so you stopped her asin infringed on her freedom of movement and association? Why wasn’t dialogue on the table?
@Oistien_VanMowo replied; Oh you thought stopping her involves locking her down? 😂 Dialogue is when you voice your reservation and she obliges you. Same way I obliges her when she sights her reservation. Because we are used to reading abuse we view things from abuse perspective so I understand
Another lady @Obianuju23 wrote; Lmaooo. This doesn’t make any sense. She will do so by her own will,she’s an adult. My mum is the last born,she said she used her hand to lessened how she goes to her family house by herself. Tbh trying to cut her off from her parents is abusive and manipulative Biko.
@Oistien_VanMowo said; There is a difference between cutting off and saying No just once or twice in a union of years. Reread my statement again if you dont mind ma’am. Only Narcissistic men tries to cut off their wives from their family.