A Twitter user @budgetOdogwu, has narrated how a Nigerian man divorced his wife for acting like she was entitled to his money after he became rich some years ago.
The man got a job with an oil company and let his job at a bank, however, because of the money he started making, his wife decided to quit her job.
She said she did not want to work anymore, so he set up a business for her. But the problem was that she did not contribute a single dime to the family and all their bills were handled by him.
This made the man to rethink his decision to remain with her, so after making some daring financial moves in secret, he finally decided to file for divorce.
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An Egbon got married when he started work at First Bank . His wife was doing her nursing rounds at Nursing School PH . Everything financial was on this man . When she finished , she had twins. God was merciful and he got promoted.
Somehow , SPDC came calling . Took the opportunity and they moved from Rumuola to Shell RA . They got a maid and this Egbon drops the kids at school on his way to work .
His wife said she didn’t want to work and he opened up a business for her at Okporo. All the money used was from his single salary at Shell. This man talked about it for a while how she didn’t even bother bringing anything home and she retorted that he was a Shell worker and he shouldn’t have married her if he couldn’t take care of her.
This Egbon never forgot those words . Man built 2 houses and acquired properties and his wife didn’t know anything about it. He was virtually funding her business. Holidays ? On him. Everything (according to him and corroborated by her )
The marriage was never the same. This was someone who he made sure had no issues finishing school and still set up to earn when she said she didn’t want to work. Baba left SPDC in 2018. 3 months later , he filed for divorce.
When he was asked, he said he had been living with a woman who saw him as a ticket and not a partner. It didn’t make sense to me since they always looked like a decent couple in church. They got divorced in 2019 . He said so many things that she couldn’t deny
I know a lot of you always talk about domestic Labour but let’s start being honest about our dynamics and why some actions make no sense . You can’t ask men to do better in being productive in the home and yet refuse to help balance out elsewhere. It’s a sin
We all know men who do a good share of domestic work . We all know women who contribute. We firmly know that they are both in the minority . We want to see a good spread across genders . You cannot ask for a change without refusing to change too
And let us stop using childbirth as an excuse . If you want to be paid for childbirth, please go and be a donor / surrogacy provider . We can all acknowledge the insanity of childbirth without weaponizing it as a gotcha moment when talking about contributory issues.