People often dream of the wonderful life they’ll have once they’re married. Unfortunately, many of these dreams are short-lived. The reality of married life usually “hits home” within 24 hours after the wedding! And then you start wondering: What did I get into? When you decide to get married, know there are many things about married life you don’t yet understand.
Marriage isn’t for comfort. There’s a high price that you pay to create and maintain a happy marriage. You’ve got to be willing to pay that price. Being married is like having a second job. If you’re ready and willing to “roll up your sleeves” and work on your relationship, you’ve got a good chance to successfully. Most people seek a pleasurable life. Not all of life’s pleasures are equal. Some of these pleasures have more meaning for you than others.
So when you start having a “bumpy ride” in your relationship, don’t be surprised. Expect it. Relationships are never easy -– even in the best marriages. There will always be things to work out, sacrifices to be made, and changes that we each must undertake to accommodate our spouse. There would also be times when you just feel you can’t deal with your spouse anymore.
Women experiences some body transformation after birth and tend to loss shape after child bearing, be supportive and help her fall back in shape. Spouses should learn to be by each other always no matter the trials and present conditions.
No problem has ever been solved by arguing. Silence is a strong weapon and it can save your marriage. If one partner is provoked or complains, silence is the best answer. Conversely, you can say, “We will discuss it in the evening”
Love Comes First
Love is the foundation to a long lasting marriage. Physical love is good, but there has to be genuine spiritual love also in your heart. Your immediate neighbor is your own spouse. So let charity begin at home and set an example by loving your spouse first and foremost.
Listen to your partner
Learn to listen attentively and sympathetically to your spouse. Watching tv, reading newspaper or pressing your phone can be very rude and annoying. Never ignore. Even at your place of work, if you get a telephone call from your partner, be polite and courteous, in spite of your busy schedule.
Inquire and take interest in one another’s activity during the day. As usual women love to take. Asking about each other’s day create room for communication and closure. Always ask, “How was your day?” You must show your genuine appreciation and sympathy.
Learn to shower your partner with praises. Make use of “Thank you”, “Well done”, “You have done a good job”, and “I am sorry”, as frequently as is necessary. Be generous in your praise and compliments.
Do not compare
Comparison is a joy killer. Do not enter into comparisons. No one is 100% perfect or 100% imperfect. We all have flaws and shortcomings. Always look at the good qualities of your spouse.
Narrow the gulf, forgive and forget
Whether it is a love marriage, arranged marriage or forced marriage, differences are bound to arise. Both of you come from different backgrounds, upbringings and environments. You must be ready to overlook the sharp differences, lapses or shortcomings. Remember, to forgive is divine, and keep doing it, even if you have to repeat this process for infinite times